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How To Improve Your Marriage

Why your spouse's troubled past can be hazardous to your marriage

Discover how to immediately lower your stress when you (or your spouse) are strapped with baggage from your past.

Larry Bilotta"I lived 27 years in a marriage made in Hell, but in the 28th year, I fell in love with my wife! And today after 34 years we're closer than ever.

It was throughout these 27 chaotic years, that I found the solution to repairing the DAMAGE I received from growing up in a difficult childhood so I could turn my life and my marriage into something with purpose rather than continued chaos.

Tell me if this sounds familiar to you (or your spouse)...

Checkmark Were you born into a house where your father did not have a strong presence in your life because he was "just kind of there", non-existent, or abusive, neglectful...or a combination of all three?

Checkmark Did either of your parents feel they had their own lives to live and ignored you as a result?

Checkmark Were your parents fearful and worried people who always predicted disaster for themselves and for you?


If you answered "YES" to any of the above questions
, chances are good that you're struggling in your marriage.

Whether these questions apply to YOU, or your spouse, it's important that you understand the house we are “dropped into” is NOT our choice.

In fact, there are so many WRONG ways to raise a child that MANY people are raised in “Chaos homes” that produce troubled children (and troubled adults).

Did YOU Grow Up In a "Chaos Home"?

Chaos homes are created when parents who have never dealt with their own Chaos childhood, raise their own children…only to give them the same treatment that THEY were given as a child.

It is a sad but true fact that Chaos homes produce Chaos Kids.

And unfortunately, Chaos Kids have marriage trouble.

I know this first-hand because I was a Chaos Kid who married a Chaos Kid. This is the reason I lived 27 years in marriage Hell.

In fact, here's even more proof...

SurveyI Recently Conducted a Study Where I Spoke By Phone With 210 Troubled Couples.


I discovered that 93% of those marriages had either one or BOTH spouses who grew up in Chaos Kid homes. 

Only 7% of the struggling couples consisted of TWO individuals from good homes.

If YOUR marriage is in trouble, chances are, you share something very similar with these couples - ONE or BOTH of you are "Chaos Kids".

What Is a "Chaos Kid"...and What Does This Mean For Your Marriage?

If you've ever said to yourself, "This is not the man/woman I married!"? then chances are very high that you married a Chaos Kid.

You might even be one yourself!

A Chaos Kid can be recognized in a marriage when a troubling event takes place that causes the spouse to "snap". (Quite often this happens when the troubled spouse is around 30 to 40 years old.)

This traumatic event could be:

  • A lost job
  • A parent moves in
  • A sick child
  • A depressed spouse
  • An addiction
  • An affair
  • A move across five states, etc.

Chaos KidWhen this troubling event arrives in your life, something I call the "Chaos Engine" is triggered in the brain of that spouse.  This Chaos Engine is actually a set of programs installed in the spouse's brain during their first ten years by their parents.

When the Chaos Engine is turned on, you could say that "all hell breaks loose" because that's how it feels.

This event then causes a dramatic change in the Chaos Kid's behavior that pushes them to recreate what happened in their first ten years.

In essence, the Chaos Kid is trying to recreate what was "normal" when they were a kid.

And when a child was raised in chaos, that is what they will try to recreate.

This could involve irrational behaviors such as:

  • Having an affair
  • Frequently staying up late and going out to bars
  • Spending money foolishly, etc.
  • Taking off on a trip without notifying anyone

Throughout the first ten, critical years of a child’s life, the “programs” that children receive from their parents affect them for the rest of their lives.

In the case of a child who was raised in a stable, secure home, for the rest of their lives, they will find that they naturally gravitate towards successful choices in their marriage, social life and career.

Since I was not raised in this sort of home, it was in the 27 years of struggling in my own marriage years that I found the solution to repairing the damage I received from growing up in a Chaos home and turning my life into something with purpose rather than continued chaos.

If you're married to a Chaos Kid or you are one yourself, I STRONGLY suggest you submit your Second Chance story so that you and I can speak over the phone for a FREE 30 minute, LIVE consultation.

I work with Chaos Kids and their spouses every day and you don't need to be alone in this. Even if you've tried nearly every other marriage saving solution and program out there, there MAY still be hope for you.

NOBODY else is talking about this Chaos Kid idea and as a result, millions of couples and individuals feel trapped in a loveless marriage with a spouse who is not acting like the person they married.

Through my Environment Changer program, I've helped these people maintain their sanity while their Chaos Kid tries to TEAR their family apart.

Take a moment to stop by my Environment Changer website to listen to the many different audio recordings my past students have left after they've completed the program.

You'll hear how they've re-gained a sense of confidence, hope, joy and faith because they now know the secret of eliminating their negative feelings - the moment they appear and positively affecting everyone around them.

---> You can listen to the audio recordings here.

---> To join me for a FREE, 30 minute LIVE phone consutation, submit your Second Chance story here.

 

 

 

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