In other words, smothering your spouse in hugs and kisses isn’t going to make him/her want to hug/kiss YOU more if what they actually want is “acts of service” like taking out the trash or cleaning the house!

This description from Amazon.com says it best….

“Unhappiness in marriage often has a simple root cause: we speak different love languages, believes Dr. Gary Chapman.

While working as a marriage counselor for more than 30 years, he identified five love languages: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch.

In a friendly, often humorous style, he unpacks each one. Some husbands or wives may crave focused attention; another needs regular praise. Gifts are highly important to one spouse, while another sees fixing a leaky faucet, ironing a shirt, or cooking a meal as filling their "love tank."

Some partners might find physical touch makes them feel valued: holding hands, giving back rubs, and sexual contact. Chapman illustrates each love language with real-life examples from his counseling practice. ..."Love is a choice," says Chapman. "And either partner can start the process today."

If you want to improve your marriage and have your spouse meet your needs, by meeting theirs FIRST, I highly recommend this book. Just go to: http://www.stopyourdivorcein4weeks.com/gary.html to get your own copy today.

The only drawback for some may be that it is written by a Christian man, and he makes a few references to prayer and other such things, but if you can get past those comments then you’ll love this book and the advice on marriage that he offers you!

3. YOU CAN’T IMPROVE YOUR MARRIAGE UNLESS YOU FEEL LIKE IT FIRST

Many people search for the recipe for a happy marriage, in a quest for a simple LIST of things they can go do and then simply “check off their list.”

But unfortunately, that’s not how REAL married life works. I could give you a long list of ideas and advice on marriage that would improve your marriage, but that list won’t do you any good.

If you’re like most married couples, you won't take anyone's advice on marriage... unless you actually feel like doing something to improve your marriage FIRST.

All the advice on marriage in the world is NOT going to make a difference in your relationship when you resent your spouse and feel so negative that you can’t even bring yourself to do it!

The key is actually FEELING LIKE doing something positive for your marriage…and THEN doing it.

Believe me; it’s MUCH easier to do something nice for your spouse when you’re feeling optimistic about your marriage…than it is to “force” yourself to take the first step towards a better marriage.

Now I know what you’re thinking. “How do I get to the point where I FEEL LIKE doing something to improve my marriage? I’m so frustrated with my spouse right now!”

Well, I’m glad you asked. :-)

I offer a FREE e-mail mini-course on “How to Instantly Overcome Your Negative feelings…the Moment they Appear.” If you’re at all interested, you can get started here. (Link opens in a new window.)

Now…if you’ve already decided “yes, I want to save my marriage”, then I’ve created some marriage saving tips that will get you off to a good start. Or, if you prefer, you can just keep reading for more practical advice on marriage.

4. WHEN YOU NEED MORE THAN JUST “ADVICE ON MARRIAGE”

If you’ve tried in the past to repair your marriage yourself and you think you need advice on marriage from an outside party, there is an alternative that is less expensive, less invasive and MORE effective than traditional counseling.

It’s called the Marriage Lifeline. And yes, I admit, it IS a program that I personally created based off of what I used to transform my own marriage, but I CAN tell you that it has an 88% success rate. :-)

The program makes it possible to stop your divorce in just 4 weeks without leaving the comfort of your own home. You can see what couples have to say about it here.

Many couples participate in this program AFTER going through traditional marriage counseling. These couples tell me that marriage counseling not only DIDN’T DO A THING for their marriage, but it actually stressed the relationship to a point where the couple’s marriage was becoming worse, not better.

Find out why this phenomenon is becoming increasingly more common. Believe it or not, but 25% of couples who attend marriage counseling are actually WORSE off than before they started!

If you don’t want to pay the costly hourly fees of a marriage counselor or even if your spouse refuses to participate, I want you to know that there is an alternative option for you. To learn more about what the Marriage Lifeline can do for your marriage, click here when you’re ready.

5. FREE MARRIAGE HELP

If all you need is some weekly reminder tips, additional insight and advice on marriage about how to reduce your stress and improve your marriage, you can sign up for my weekly newsletter, “The “Insider’s Guide” to a Happy Marriage” which is published every Thursday.

Each week, you’ll receive practical advice on marriage you can use to transform your relationship into the marriage you’ve always hoped for.

As an added bonus, you’ll get instant access to the special report, “Your Invisible Lifestyle: Is it Helping or Hurting Your Marriage?” where you’ll not only discover the source of conflicts in your marriage, but you’ll be able to resolve them quickly and effectively, with no hard feelings on either side.

Here are some highlights of the practical advice on marriage that you’ll discover in this free report:

• How to have a happy and fulfilling marriage – even if you’re complete opposites and can’t stand each other right now!

• Learn the little-known secret of why neither of you are the “bad guy” in your marriage.

• End your relationship stress by discovering the source of your problems. (Most couples completely overlook the true source of their pain.)

• Learn why you are NOT AT FAULT for any ‘bad habits’ you or your spouse may posses.

• Find out how to help your spouse (or yourself) overcome these troublesome habits. (And no, it doesn’t involve hypnosis.) :)

• Discover how to stop arguing by learning exactly WHY there is no right way to do things.

• Find out why the choices you make today can help or hurt your children’s happiness and success not only in their childhood, but also as an adult.

This special report is free: the sooner you read it, the sooner you’ll be relieved from the strain your relationship is causing you right now. Just fill in the form below to get instant access to the free report and you’ll be on your way to a less stressful and more fulfilling marriage.