Advice on Marriage from a Man Who Has…. “Been There, Done That”If you’re looking for advice on marriage, you’re in the right place. Whether your marriage is on the verge of divorce, or it just needs a little “fine tuning”; you’ll find all the tips and tools you need to improve your relationship…right here at your fingertips. Our marriage was as bad as it gets. You see, I married my COMPLETE OPPOSITE. In fact, you’d think we were from different planets if you compared our habits, values, priorities and temperaments… and that’s before you take into account our male/female differences….which brings me to the best advice on marriage that I can give you… 1. UNDERSTAND YOUR INVISIBLE LIFESTYLE I created a FREE video for married couples called "Why You Fight: The REAL Reason Couples End Up In Conflict They Can't Control"... When your marriage is in trouble, every second that goes by is a moment your spouse could be slipping away from you both emotionally and physically. You need a way to reverse the effects of what happened in your marriage that brought you to the point where you find yourself now - and you need it fast. And of all the different methods and concepts I teach, over the years I’ve found that the Invisible Lifestyle is by far the most eye-opening of all to couples. So today I’d like to share this free video I created that will help you pick up the pieces of your relationship and create a much deeper partnership with your spouse. But this time, you’ll be looking at your spouse in a whole new light because you’ll understand WHY…your spouse is so sensitive to yelling, WHY…your spouse gets upset when you spend money, or WHY...your spouse hates conflict so much. Whatever your “hot button” issues are, you need to uncover the SOURCE of these issues instead of dealing with the SYMPTOMS. This video will show you how… Why You Fight: Discover Your Invisible Lifestyle (Clicking the image below opens the video in a new window)
If the video below WILL NOT play on your computer, CLICK HERE to download the video to your computer. (Right click on the link and then choose save as.) This should resolve that issue, but please allow the video enough time to download because it is a large file. 2. LEARN THE “5 LOVE LANGUAGES” I highly recommend you read Gary Chapman's book, "The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate" if you’re lacking a certain “closeness” in your marriage. Often times we wish our spouse would treat us a certain way, but we never actually tell them what it is that we want them to do! Gary Chapman gives you practical advice on marriage by making it easy for you to communicate what you need from your spouse to feel loved…and what they need from you! When I first read this book, when I found out what made my wife feel loved…I was SHOCKED! She wanted “acts of service” of all things! I thought that since I liked “words of affirmation”…that she would too! I hated doing “acts of service” (a.k.a. chores around the house, gardening and repairs) and that’s exactly why I wasn’t meeting her needs! I didn’t realize what I was doing wrong until I read this book.... ...which brings me to another one of the best pieces of advice on marriage I can give you. Don't treat your spouse the way you WISH your spouse would treat YOU! In other words, smothering your spouse in hugs and kisses isn’t going to make him/her want to hug/kiss YOU more if what they actually want is “acts of service” like taking out the trash or cleaning the house! This description from Amazon.com says it best…. “Unhappiness in marriage often has a simple root cause: we speak different love languages, believes Dr. Gary Chapman. While working as a marriage counselor for more than 30 years, he identified five love languages: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch. In a friendly, often humorous style, he unpacks each one. Some husbands or wives may crave focused attention; another needs regular praise. Gifts are highly important to one spouse, while another sees fixing a leaky faucet, ironing a shirt, or cooking a meal as filling their "love tank." Some partners might find physical touch makes them feel valued: holding hands, giving back rubs, and sexual contact. Chapman illustrates each love language with real-life examples from his counseling practice. ..."Love is a choice," says Chapman. "And either partner can start the process today." If you want to improve your marriage and have your spouse meet your needs, by meeting theirs FIRST, I highly recommend this book. Just go to: http://www.stopyourdivorcein4weeks.com/gary.html to get your own copy today. The only drawback for some may be that it is written by a Christian man, and he makes a few references to prayer and other such things, but if you can get past those comments then you’ll love this book and the advice on marriage that he offers you! Many people search for the recipe for a happy marriage, in a quest for a simple LIST of things they can go do and then simply “check off their list.” But unfortunately, that’s not how REAL married life works. I could give you a long list of ideas and advice on marriage that would improve your marriage, but that list won’t do you any good. If you’re like most married couples, you won't take anyone's advice on marriage... unless you actually feel like doing something to improve your marriage FIRST. All the advice on marriage in the world is NOT going to make a difference in your relationship when you resent your spouse and feel so negative that you can’t even bring yourself to do it! The key is actually FEELING LIKE doing something positive for your marriage…and THEN doing it. Now I know what you’re thinking. “How do I get to the point where I FEEL LIKE doing something to improve my marriage? I’m so frustrated with my spouse right now!” Well, I’m glad you asked. :-) I offer a FREE e-mail mini-course on “How to Instantly Overcome Your Negative feelings…the Moment they Appear.” If you’re at all interested, you can get started here. (Link opens in a new window.) Now…if you’ve already decided “yes, I want to save my marriage”, then I’ve created some marriage saving tips that will get you off to a good start. Or, if you prefer, you can just keep reading for more practical advice on marriage. 4. WHEN YOU NEED MORE THAN JUST “ADVICE ON MARRIAGE” If you’ve tried in the past to repair your marriage yourself and you think you need advice on marriage from an outside party, there is an alternative that is less expensive, less invasive and much MORE effective than traditional counseling. It’s called the Environment Changer program. And yes, I admit, it IS a program that I personally created based off of what I used to transform my own marriage, but I CAN tell you that it has an 88% success rate when both spouses are participating. :-) The program makes it possible to PROVE to your spouse that you really ARE different. It's not enough to say "But I've changed!" In your spouses' mind, it's "too, little too late". Now by all means, you don't need to change as a person. What you DO need to do however, is understand EXACTLY how to start meeting your spouses' needs, but it all starts with gaining control over your emotions. Very often what happens is that although you try your hardest to remain positive and upbeat, your spouse still senses the negativity in you. Because if you don't get to the source of what creates negative feelings, all you're really doing by trying to remain positive is...well...faking it. And when it comes to emotions, "fake it 'til you make it" just doesn't apply. Becoming an Environment Changer through this program is based on what you do "inside", NOT what you do outside. You will learn how to change "the environment" inside you and finally begin to feel calm, secure, safe, important and valuable, possibly for the first time in your life.
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If you don’t want to pay the costly hourly fees of a marriage counselor or even if your spouse refuses to participate, I want you to know that there is an alternative option for you. To learn more about what the Environment Changer program can do for your marriage, click here. 5. FREE MARRIAGE HELP Now if your marriage is really in trouble and on the brink of (or very close to) divorce, it's important you find out how far along your spouse is to the Point Of No Return. You can do this by getting a copy of my FREE Special Report, "The Secret Path To Divorce". If you're like most men or women whose spouses dropped the "D-Bomb" on them, this all came as a shock to you. And if divorce hasn't been brought up yet, but only implied, you NEED to do something TODAY before it's too late. An Important Message For Men... Since women file 80% of divorces, it is often the woman who has been quietly seething about all the frustrations of the past, meanwhile MASKING the resentment and bitterness behind a pleasant facade of the wife you THOUGHT you married. But the facade can only last so long. Inevitably, one day your wife will explode like a ticking time-bomb when she's decided "enough is enough"! This is the reason you NEED to know how far along you are on the Secret Path To Divorce! You won’t find these one-of-a-kind insights anywhere else. As an added bonus, once you sign up for this Special Report, you'll automatically start receiving my "Insider's Guide To a Happy Marriage" online newsletter that's PACKED with free, simple and practical marriage advice, along with additional resources that can help you further your education on how to start turning things around in your marriage. So right now, download my FREE Special Report, "The Secret Path To Divorce". You can unsubscribe at any time. Your email address is safe
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